Sometimes life is hard and doesn't go as planned. My plans changed dramatically the weekend of my younger sister's wedding. I traveled with my husband and young daughter from Kansas to Ohio for the big event. I was thrilled to be there with my extended family, happy to be the matron of honor, and loving every minute of the festivities with my best friend, my sister. At the rehearsal dinner, I started to feel uncomfortable and concerned. My husband and I left the party abruptly and he carried me to the car. It was clear I was having a miscarriage and there was no stopping it.
Almost a quarter of all known pregnancies in the United States end in miscarriage and I became a reluctant addition to this heartbreaking statistic. While this was my first and only miscarriage, it wasn't my first or last experience with sudden loss.
I gleaned some wonderful wisdom from my journey. Few things have helped me more than talking with other women who have experienced exactly what I had. Everyone must grieve in their own way and at their own pace. Going through difficult seasons builds empathy and compassion and prepares us for future opportunities to comfort others. But what has helped me the most is found in one of my favorite and most comforting verses:
The Lord hears his people when they call to him for help. He rescues them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. Psalm 34:17-18 (NLT)
When loss left me feeling discouraged, tired, and beaten down, the Lord was close—even when I didn't realize it. He pulled me through then and still does today. I look for discreet opportunities to share the grief of others by listening without judging and coming along side to be a comforting presence, just as the Lord continues to do for me.